Using online social media in fundraising
How do I get the agency to use online social media in our fundraising?
This question came in a phone conversation with a client of  Consulting Within Reach. She’s the executive director of one of the  county’s largest social service organizations. It’s an excellent  nonprofit doing good work, but it definitely has a more “traditional”  feel to its culture, and has had minimal to no online social media  presence so far. 
Since I knew the  organization well, I realized that I needed to start by first framing  the purpose and cultural context of this new media for a nonprofit like  hers. To do this, I resorted to my favorite metaphor for the topic  (courtesy of my friend Christine Egger at Social Actions): the cocktail party.
Imagine  that your organization is holding your annual fundraising  dinner. Before the guests are seated for their meal, there is  customarily a cocktail party where everyone lingers in the lobby,  sipping drinks and chatting.
Now imagine the following behaviors on your part and how well each would go down with the crowd.
- You jump up to stand on the bar, grab a microphone, and proceed to lecture the crowd nonstop about your organization’s accomplishments.
- You circulate through all the small groups and hand to everyone a printed set of message points about your cause that you want covered in the conversation.
- You have your staff circulate through all the small groups with those old school manual credit card imprinters, asking for on the spot donations.
Each behavior  would be gauche, wouldn’t it? Any executive director knows that those  actions are inappropriate for the purpose and cultural context of the  cocktail party. 
Purpose and cultural context  are critical to figuring out correct behavior. There are times when it  is actually expected that you will grab the microphone and fill up the  airspace with your organization’s achievements.  But that happens in the  designated program portion of the fundraising dinner. 
There  are times when it would be wise for the leader to make sure everyone is  on message. But that should happen before the event and just with the  staff team. 
And there are times when you should  ask for donation in an easy to give fashion. But that happens best at  the end of the evening.
So how does an organization start using online social media for fundraising?
By  first realizing that online social media is the cocktail party. It’s  not the main program for the evening. It’s not a “messaging opportunity”  to manage. And it’s not even really meant to be the fundraiser itself.
The  key for an organization that doesn’t come naturally to online social  media is to internalize the cocktail party metaphor and then adjust  their behavior accordingly.   And one specific adjustment is the need to converse, and not lecture.
Converse, don’t lecture. 
This  is the biggest shift for some leaders. They can become so accustomed to  thinking of all media as broadcast channels that they don’t realize  that the whole point of online social media is that it breaks up the  traditional one way relationship between speaker and audience. The new  media is designed to facilitate conversations: some of them between the  speaker and the audience but even more between audience member and  audience member. 
One  hint: if your organization’s Facebook page is starting to resemble a  stripped down version of your web page, chances are that you’re doing  the equivalent of jumping on the bar and grabbing the microphone. You  should be using an online social media tool to do things that a website –  more designed for broadcasting then conversing -- doesn’t do as well:  like get feedback on events, quick polls, giving real time updates, and  others.
The nice thing about conversation is  that you get more timely feedback than you do with lecture. Use this key  advantage of the medium to learn more about your audience. The best  conversationalists are always the ones who ask the best questions, so  start your first attempts in the medium with what would be interesting  questions for your audience.
Here are some examples:
- As an organization, we’re thinking about doing X this new year. What do you think?
- We’re launching this program in a few months but don’t have a name for it. What are your ideas?
- What other organizations do you support and why?
- We’re not sure we’re offering meaningful volunteer opportunities. What are you looking for?
Now,  here’s the other key to cocktail party conversations: you have to  genuinely want to know what your audience thinks about these questions.  You have to want to know for the sake of knowing your audience, not just  as a segue into fundraising.
People can tell  when there is genuine interest. There’s nothing worse than that person  at a party  who asks, “So, how are you?” and then during your reply is  constantly glancing over your shoulder for who else is present at the  party.  Or just as bad, who nods impatiently through your reply and  interrupts to say, “What I really wanted to talk to you about was… “
Genuine  interest doesn’t of course mean you will adopt their suggestions of  course. But it will probably involve some sort of time and  effort. Again, people can tell. Not every organization is ready to open  itself to that kind of input. And not every leader is willing to devote  organizational bandwidth to engaging in that kind of conversation.
That’s OK. You don’t have to. But it just means that you shouldn’t be throwing this particular party.